You don’t have to do all the heavy lifting yourself. The second most effective way to build self-confidence is by watching others try, succeed and fail or Vicarious Life Experiences, according to Dr. Albert Bandura. Through vicarious life experiences or social modeling, you absorb and internalize the experiences of others. Witnessing other people’s experiences gives you a firsthand demonstration of what works and what doesn’t work.
In fact, the more you identify with the model, the person doing what you hope to do, the greater the influence on your self-confidence. Seek out people who have expertise and abilities you want. Observe their behavior and ask them what it’s like to tackle the very thing that strikes terror in your heart. You will naturally adapt what you learn into a perception of what you want to become.
Building confidence is a purposeful pursuit. Learn about the next two life experiences that build self-confidence in future posts.