Coping with “Constructive” Feedback

Fighting Words BWWhen you receive negative feedback, think before dismissing it. Give your mind a moment to reflect on the criticism. That pause will help you overcome the brain’s natural tendency to deny, defend or run away from it.

Take a pause to decipher what it means and filter out valuable nuggets you can use. Better yet, ask questions to clarify the intent behind the feedback. When you understand the feedback giver’s perspective, it may not be as bad as you thought.

That’s Rex Huppke’s advice. His column, I Just Work Here, is featured in the Chicago Tribune. Huppke recommends the book, Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.

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